When a black man fights with a black woman, he is either fighting with his greatest ally or worst enemy, depending on how well he has chosen. This is within the context of life/covenant partnership aka marriage.
The perpetuation of violence – physical, verbal, psychic – of the black man towards the black woman is a travesty, a usurping of the natural order which God has created. This violence is also perpetuated by black women against black men but this is not my focus at this time, it will be addressed a little bit later.
The black man who has not humbled himself before God, who has not built himself up in God is weak ( this is true of even the healed ones) – the world and its “isms” have disciplined him to fight and/or constrain the one other person to which he can genuinely ally against the massive warfare he faces in the systems of this work he has to live in – systems which are designed to keep him at the very bottom rung. ( I write not to condemn, I have a lot of compassion and empathy for my black brothers, I’m on their side).
Woman’s power is influence power, man resists to his own detriment. Being a woman of power means having power to endure the man, endure his innate selfishness, stubbornness and narcissism. Power to endure, to accommodate, to resist in a non confrontational manner. Non confrontational and non adversarial. Man is not, has never and will never be enemy.
Black men and women, do not fight each other, join together and fight the systems of this world that have been designed to keep you down.
Repair families, fight for your families – nuclear and extended. Individualism is one of the “isms” that has broken a structure that existed for centuries.
Unity is the key.